Dear Little Myf
Hello, it’s Big Myf here. You haven’t met me yet, but you will someday.
I’m writing to let you know that I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, and there a couple of things I’ve learned over the years that I think you might find useful. It’s not an exhaustive list, but it should be a good place to start.
First, always be kind. You have a beautiful soul and a generous heart that can empower many. You can turn the dimmer switch up on others even when they are in the darkest of moods. It’s a gift little one. People will want to move towards you to be happy, and to see things more clearly. Welcome it.
Second, always remember that despite what it may seem, everything does work out OK. You may not see it at first, but I promise you it will. If it’s not OK, it means it isn’t over. Lie in your favourite spot on the floor, put some headphones in and just hang out for a few moments. Trust me, you’ll be OK.
Third, there are boys out there who look for girls like you who make them feel good about themselves – don’t date anyone who doesn’t make you feel the same way. Your genuine interest in others makes them feel valued. Remember, you’re of value too. Don’t be afraid to lose anyone who doesn’t make you feel this way. And for the love of god, please, don’t love someone who doesn’t love you back. Your loving heart does not deserve to go through such pain. Have more self respect than that, little one.
Fourth, choose your friends because you’re comfortable being yourself around them. You share your stories and they listen. You feel like you’re a valuable human being when you’re around them, even when you feel like you’re worthless. They text you first, know exactly what to say, and when to say it. Hold on to these types of people close and remember to show them you appreciate them.
Fifth, learn to be at peace with your body. While you are doing your best at keeping it healthy, never think of it as a failure. Wear short because you’re proud of your legs, and thank them for keeping you grounded. Stare in to your beautiful blue eyes, and be grateful for the windows that show you your world.
Sixth, ask lots of questions. Ask questions about people and things. You never know who you’ll meet, or what they can teach you. Things aren’t always what they seem. Be wary of that and learn to trust your gut. You’re smart girl little Myf. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, and learn to as good ones.
Seventh, it’s true, no one cares. Really. No one cares if you’re wearing make-up in the gym at 5am. No one cares that you think you look fat today. No one cares about the little mundane problems you’ve created in your head. It’s all true. No one really gives a shit because they are too busy caring about themselves. Don’t waste your energy on the petty things my dear Myf. You’ve got a bigger role to play in this game.
This segues in to my last tip: remember – life is just a big game. You play your cards and are left to deal with the consequences of your move. Others deal theirs, and it’s up to you, and only you, to decide what your response will be.
Sure, I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, but remember, you are not one of them. Always believe that you can change the World, even if it is only in the slightest way. Remember – everything big comes from small beginnings. Just like you did.
Hang in there, you’re doing great.
I love you,
Big Myf x